Dearest Darling Readers,
The question I propose to you today is this: Can a girl be friends with her best friend's boyfriend? My answer is yes. But some people don't seem to share this opinion. One of my best friends, let's call her Minnie, is going out with a guy, let's call him Mickey, who is also one of my best friends. Some of our other friends think that it's not normal for Mickey to be talking to me more than he talks to Minnie. Personally, I think this is ridiculous. No one would be saying anything if it were Minnie that I were talking to more than she talks to Mickey!
So, okay, it should be disclosed that a few of the conversations that I have with Mickey are about topics that...well they wouldn't exactly be discussed on Disney Channel. But so what? I talk about those things with some of my female friends, and no one says anything about that. It's that perpetual debate about the difference between inter-gender friendships. Can they truly exist? Of course! I can say 100% honestly that I am not sexually attracted to Mickey, and that the feeling is mutual.
So, so what if I'm friends with my friend's boyfriend? Yeah, maybe it makes Minnie a little uncomfortable, but she's one of those people who gets uncomfortable quite often. If it bothers her so much, then she has every right to say something, as I have told her many times, but all those other people don't really have much authority. They can voice their opinions, sure, but they can't get mad if I don't listen. And in any case, I was friends with Mickey before he even started dating Minnie, and there's only a difference now? Plus, I also have a boyfriend, but yet no one says anything about how my boyfriend might feel, only about Minnie (now I love Minnie to pieces, don't get me wrong) but this whole thing is somewhat rooted in unintentional sexism: preconceived notions about how men are the more untrustworthy sex.
What's YOUR opinion?
~Book
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Please, stuff you tell al your friends? You wont even tell us what you talk about it's that bad!
ReplyDelete~Bimbo
umm...almost everything that he and i talk about, you and i have talked about. the only reason he knows more details is because you don't ask. and i don't tell you what we talk about because you just assume that it's awful, so i figure what's the point of trying to convince you otherwise?
ReplyDelete~Book
Guys don't have a fight right here all right? Book this is not based in preconcived notions of sexism ok Minnie doesn't seem to care but you never know...I'm with Bimbo on this one.
ReplyDelete~Freak
No, i know that Minnie cares. But I told her that if it got *way* too weird, then she could tell us to stop if she wanted. And i don't *want* a fight, either, but i just want to make it clear that pretty much everything i talk about with mike, i do actually talk about with you guys sometimes.
ReplyDelete~Book
Who's Mike? I thought it was Mickey
ReplyDeleteNote that mickey and minnie are the only followers of this blog besides the writers...
ReplyDeleteoh damn it. sorry mike. cat's out of the bag...
ReplyDelete~Book
You guys are so weird.
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